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Having an ex as a friend is a green flag
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Conventional wisdom is generally that someone who's friends with their ex is still hung up on said ex. Certainly true in some cases. But if you are over, say... 30 (random benchmark, don't kill me) and don't have any relationships with an ex, I wonder...
- have you never developed emotional intimacy?
- have you developed but later destroyed emotional intimacy?
- have you developed, maintained, but then simply made a conscious decision to walk away from emotional intimacy?
Loving someone and still being able to recognize they aren't your "soul mate" takes strength, honesty, and self-awareness. Being able to give someone the grace required come through a breakup with love intact is a massive indicator of character and patience. Standing by a friend in the face of future jealousies demonstrates an especially robust kind of loyalty. These are all qualities I would want in a partner.
Someone said, "Only date people you think would make a good ex," and I liked that. If you are friends with an ex, it's likely you are a good ex, so not petty, jealous, possessive, or cruel. These are all qualities I would want to avoid in a partner.
Green flag.
EDIT:
TIL that a 'flag' is not widely considered a form of nuance. I've always thought of them as clues more than hard start / stop sort of items, like "oh you like dogs? Green flag, oh you mean for eating? Red flag." As most have pointed out, the issue is not black and white, and I suppose IMHO this might be more appropriately described as a "promising sign worth looking into further."
Thanks every one for the contributions. : )
Top Comment: There's a lot of variability or nuance to such issues
[Spoiler] Weird green tether in Titania Ex that has no effect. What is this?
Main Post: [Spoiler] Weird green tether in Titania Ex that has no effect. What is this?
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Fey light (whatever the attack is called) is a conal AOE, which you can see in the picture. The damage can be shared, but only by the player with top enmity and the player physically closest to them. This second player is shown by the tether.
If the second person with the tether stood in the cone, both players would take half the total damage. If the entire party were to stand in the cone, only the two tethered players would take damage.
Tom Green goes on ex wife Drew Barrymore's talk show. These are the awkward results
Main Post: Tom Green goes on ex wife Drew Barrymore's talk show. These are the awkward results
Top Comment: I don't know Tom much beyond this clip . Which I find fucking hilarious. I've also heard he generally relishes in awkward shit, so can anyone say if this is just part of a "performance" of his or is he being genuine?
Sam Rockwell To Play Ex-Green Beret Michael Taylor In Film About Carlos Ghosn’ Extraction & Produce Prequel Series For MGM/UA TV
Main Post: Sam Rockwell To Play Ex-Green Beret Michael Taylor In Film About Carlos Ghosn’ Extraction & Produce Prequel Series For MGM/UA TV
Top Comment: They had me at Sam Rockwell.
What are some "green flags" that show that someone is over their ex?
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Say that you're dating someone who just told you they got out of a long-term relationship less than a year ago. What are some "green flags" that would personally put your mind at ease about this person if you think she/he might not be over the ex?
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They don’t talk about them or to them all of the time.